Parenting

Parenting practices around the world share three major goals: ensuring children’s health and safety, preparing children for life as productive adults and transmitting cultural values. A high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development. Learn more

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Liking the Child You Love: Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids–Even When They’re Driving You Crazy

 

“I shouldn’t have to tell him that again!”  “She is just so spoiled.”  “They don’t appreciate anything I do for them.”

Do you feel like you’re at the end of your rope? Are you exhausted by your kids arguing over every little thing? Finally there’s a name for your feelings: “Parent Frustration Syndrome” (PFS). No kid is perfect, but parents often don’t realize just how much their own thoughts, rather than their children’s behavior, contribute to being emotionally overwhelmed and discouraged.
In Liking the Child You Love, Renowned psychologist Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein offers proven strategies for taming the 9 most common toxic thought patterns that stop us from parenting effectively:

  •  The “Always or Never” Trap
  •  Label Gluing
  •  Seething Sarcasm
  •  Smoldering Suspicions
  •  Detrimental Denial
  •  Emotional Overheating
  •  Blame Blasting
  •  “Should” Slamming
  •  Dooming Conclusions

As you identify and put a stop to PFS’s negative thought patterns, you’ll be amazed at how your kids’ defiant behavior quickly improves, without having to raise your voice or dole out harsh punishments. Soon you will have a closer, calmer, and more loving relationship with your kids just by changing your own mindset.

 

 


10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child’s Difficult Behavior

 

Occasional clashes between parents and children are not uncommon, but when defiant behavior — such as tantrums, resistance to chores, and negativity — becomes chronic, it can cause big problems within the family. In 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child, child and family psychologist Dr. Jeff Bernstein has developed a ground-breaking 10-day program to help parents gain back control over their defiant child or teen. This powerful and exceptionally reader-friendly guide explains what causes defiance in kids, why it’s so destructive to the family, and shows parents step-by-step how they can end the behavior. Simple-to-follow and extremely effective, 10 Days to a Less Defiant Child will bring much-needed relief to the millions of frustrated parents out there living with defiant children.

 

 

 

 


How to Keep Your Teenager Out of Trouble and What to Do if You Can’t

 

The teenage years are tough-for kids, and for parents. Many teenagers are grappling with a slew of overwhelming emotions, and the results can range from not wanting to be seen with a parent in public to reckless and destructive behavior that can destroy a family. Parents despair as a child becomes a sullen, defiant stranger.

A clinical psychologist who’s spent more than two decades bringing families back from the brink, Dr. Neil I. Bernstein knows how to help parents and teens successfully navigate these difficult and trying years. Thoughtful, clear-eyed, comprehensive, and refreshingly free of jargon, HOW TO KEEP YOUR TEENAGER OUT OF TROUBLE AND WHAT TO DO IF YOU CAN’T helps parents identify whether their teens are exhibiting typical behavior-such as locking themselves in their room for

hours-or are exhibiting real danger signs, such as being secretive, despondent, or constantly angry. And then he tells what to do about it. The focus, above all else, is effective communication: how to avoid threats and put-downs, offer clear explanations, stick with the issues at hand, negotiate, improve listening skills, ask relevant questions, and stop interrogating or lecturing. Throughout, Bernstein uses examples from his practice to tell specifically what to do and say. There is sample dialogue to keep discussions from becoming arguments; signals that parental efforts are actually working; and Skill Builders that give parents the tools they need to ensure their teenagers leave home as responsible, moral adults.

 

 


Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers: Parenting with Love, Laughter, and Limits

 

The authors of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting focus their attention and expertise on the toughest parenting job of all: raising emotionally intelligent teenagers.

Just when parents think they’ve successfully navigated the baffling challenges of raising young children, they’re astonished to find those same kids have become teenagers — an entirely new genus altogether! Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers provides specific strategies for applying the insights of Daniel Goleman’s best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, to this most challenging stage in parenting.

Not only do raging hormones make everything more intense for teenagers, but they have their own special issues concerning identity, self-confidence, peer pressure, and responsibility, including individuating from their parents. Drs. Elias, Tobias, and Friedlander, all respected experts in child behavior, have written a clear, informative book of sound advice to help parents  raise knowledgeable, responsible, nonviolent, and caring teenagers who will mature into well-adjusted young adults.

Raising Emotionally Intelligent Teenagers is  packed with real-life scenarios, practical strategies, the answers to the questions parents ask most frequently, and even questionnaires and quizzes. All of this useful information is drawn from the authors’ professional and personal experiences and is given with warmth and humor.

There is a great chapter for parents and teens to read and laugh over together and one that addresses teens who are particularly tough to raise. The authors, professionals and parents who have seen it all, know how to help you and your teenagers communicate.

 

 


Emotionally Intelligent Parenting: How to Raise a Self-Disciplined, Responsible, Socially Skilled Child

 

Have you, as a parent, ever found yourself treating your children in a way you would never tolerate from someone else? The authors of Emotionally Intelligent Parenting call for a new Golden Rule: Do unto your children as you would have other people do unto your children. And most important, they show us how to live by it. Based upon extensive research, firsthand experience, and case studies, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting breaks the mold of traditional parenting books by taking into account the strong role of emotions — those of parents and children — in psychological development. With this book, parents will learn how to communicate with children on a deeper, more gratifying level and how to help them successfully navigate the intricacies of relating to others. The authors take the five basic principles of Daniel Goleman’s best-seller, Emotional Intelligence, and explain how they can be applied to successful parenting. To this end, the book offers suggestions, stories, dialogues, activities, and a special section of Sound EQ Parenting Bites to help parents use their emotions in the most constructive ways, focusing on such everyday issues as sibling rivalry, fights with friends, school situations, homework, and peer pressure. In the authors’ extensive experience, children respond quickly to these strategies, their self-confidence is strengthened, their curiosity is piqued, and they learn to assert their independence while developing their ability to make responsible choices.

 

 


Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success

 

Psychologist Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestseller The Price of Privilege, brings together cutting-edge research and thirty years of clinical experience to explode once and for all the myth that good grades, high test scores, and college acceptances should define the parenting endgame.

Teach Your Children Well is a toolbox for parents, providing information, relevant research and a series of exercises to help parents clarify a definition of success that is in line with their own values as well as their children’s interests and abilities. Teach Your Children Well is a must-read for parents, educators, and therapists looking for tangible tools to help kids thrive in today’s high-stakes, competitive culture.

 

 

 

 

 


Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries

 

In this fully revised and expanded second edition, Setting Limits author Robert MacKenzie is back with even more time-proven methods for dealing with misbehavior and creating positive, respectful, and rewarding relationships with children prone to acting out and disobedience.

Disruptive misbehavior, constant power struggles, manipulative or aggressive behavior–the challenges facing parents and teachers of strong-willed children can seem overwhelming at times. That’s why thousands of parents and educators have turned to the solutions in Setting Limits With Your Strong-Willed Child. This revised and expanded second edition offers the most up-to-date alternatives to punishment and permissiveness–moving beyond traditional methods that wear you down and get you nowhere, and zeroing in on what really works so parents can use their energy in more efficient and productive ways. With fully updated guidelines on parenting tools like “logical consequences,” and examples drawn directly from the modern world that children deal with each day, this is an invaluable resource for anyone wondering how to effectively motivate strong-willed children and instill proper conduct.

 

 


Staying Connected To Your Teenager: How To Keep Them Talking To You And How To Hear What They’re Really Saying

At last, a book of sage advice that will help frustrated parents reconnect with their teenager and keep that connection even in today’s often-crazy world.The first step is simple: realizing that inside every teen resides two very different people-the regressed child and the emergent adult. The emergent adult is seen at school, on the playing field, in his first job, and in front of his friends’ families. Unfortunately, his parents usually see only the regressed child-moody and defiant-and, if they’re not on the lookout, they’ll miss seeing the more agreeable, increasingly adult thinker in their midst.With ingenious strategies for coaxing the more attractive of the two teen personalities into the home, family psychologist Mike Riera gives new hope to beleaguered and harried parents. From moving from a “managing” to a “consulting” role in a teen’s life, from working with a teen’s uniquely exasperating sleep rhythms to having real conversations when only monosyllables have been previously possible, Staying Connected to Your Teenager demonstrates ways to bring out the best in a teen-and, consequently, in an entire family.

 

 

 

 

 


Parenting From the Inside Out

 

How many parents have found themselves thinking: I can’t believe I just said to my child the very thing my parents used to say to me! Am I just destined to repeat the mistakes of my parents? In Parenting from the Inside Out, child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences actually do shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning new findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper understanding of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children.

Born out of a series of parents’ workshops that combined Siegel’s cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell’s thirty years of experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, Parenting from the Inside Out guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children.

 

 

 

 


Help–My Kid is Driving Me Crazy: The 17 Ways Kids Manipulate Their Parents, and What You Can Do About It

 

WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS HONORS AWARDNationally renowned family psychologist, Dr. David Swanson, offers parents clear and simple techniques for disarming the strategies kids use to manipulate them – restoring peace and happiness back into the home.

Every parent knows that children quickly learn how to push their buttons. Now, this invaluable and insightful book, written by a prominent clinical psychologist, identifies the specific ways kids manipulate their parents-and how to stop each tactic. These uncannily sophisticated and undermining strategies include:
Emotional blackmail

  • Shutting down
  • Negotiation
  • Protest
  • Playing the victim
  • Dividing the parents

Filled with informative and practical advice, this insightful guide is designed to help parents restore harmony, discipline, and healthy relationships-and put an end to selfish, manipulative behavior for good.

 

 


Beyond Texting: The Fine Art of Face-to-Face Communication for Teenagers

Adults should buy this book for a teen as teenagers sign up for phone plans with unlimited text messages and 200 talk minutes, yet can’t carry on an ordinary dinner conversation. Beyond Texting is the first book for teens to explain how to be plugged in without neglecting the necessity and power of physical, human interaction. Sure, MySpace and Facebook are wonderful ways to communicate with friends or stay in touch with a far off relative. Yet success in the online world does not transfer to success in the art of conversation. Even the most outgoing teen may find a job interview, first date, or meeting with a teacher to be challenging because of lack of skills. Beyond Texting presents communication tools and conversation skills to boost confidence, survive AND thrive. This book describes how to develop the ability to have a 3-D conversation while gaining interpersonal communication skills. Offering practical advice and cheat sheets Beyond Texting strives to help teens balance their digital and real world image and relationships. Beyond Texting is a reminder to a teenager that you do have the courage to speak up at school, that you should feel confident going on a date, that you can attend a school organization meeting alone and that you are capable of a successful job interview all without the crutch of technology. Authored by Debra Fine, bestselling author of The Fine Art of Small Talk, a nationally recognized conversation and communication guru.

Any adult from parent/teacher, camp counselor and mentor to clergy and scout leader will help teens succeed both personally and professionally by buying this book for a teen.

 

 


The App Generation: How Today’s Youth Navigate Identity, Intimacy, and Imagination in a Digital World

No one has failed to notice that the current generation of youth is deeply—some would say totally—involved with digital media. Professors Howard Gardner and Katie Davis name today’s young people The App Generation, and in this spellbinding book they explore what it means to be “app-dependent” versus “app-enabled” and how life for this generation differs from life before the digital era.
Gardner and Davis are concerned with three vital areas of adolescent life: identity, intimacy, and imagination. Through innovative research, including interviews of young people, focus groups of those who work with them, and a unique comparison of youthful artistic productions before and after the digital revolution, the authors uncover the drawbacks of apps: they may foreclose a sense of identity, encourage superficial relations with others, and stunt creative imagination. On the other hand, the benefits of apps are equally striking: they can promote a strong sense of identity, allow deep relationships, and stimulate creativity. The challenge is to venture beyond the ways that apps are designed to be used, Gardner and Davis conclude, and they suggest how the power of apps can be a springboard to greater creativity and higher aspirations.

 

 

 


 

Yes, Your Teen is Crazy!: Loving Your Kid Without Losing Your Mind

 

Now in paperback! Here is the book that updates the rulebook, giving parents the training and skills they need to transform their teenage children into strong, confident, productive adults.